My Mando Cost Me My Wedding Ring

[Bob byk]

Pasha - Sorry for you loss you are in my prayers

[Petrus]

Actually when I read the thread title, I thought you were referring metaphorically to your mandolin having cost you your marriage, or something. It sounded like a hook to a potentially good Country song, too.

[Bill Snyder]

My technique must really be wrong because I can't picture how a wedding ring gets in the way of playing.

[bbaker2050]

I'm on my second ring. Wife bought me a cheap $20 titanium ( I think) ring off Amazon. I love it. I take mine off before bed and before shower. Doesn't bother me at all when playing mando.

[Tobin]

My technique must really be wrong because I can't picture how a wedding ring gets in the way of playing.

It's not really "in the way", but I feel it between my fingers and it rubs a little when my fingers are moving fast. More of a distraction than anything. I like to play unfettered, so rings come off and sleeves get rolled up.

[UsuallyPickin]

Well then you have an excellent reason to visit a jewelry store with your true loves. Wife , mandolin and check book on one outing. Your wife and mandolin can pick out a wedding ring that suites them with maybe something extra for the wife as a peace offering. From you and the mandolin of course. R/

[journeybear]

... when I read the thread title, I thought you were referring metaphorically to your mandolin having cost you your marriage, or something.

That was my first thought, too. Glad that's not the case - for the mandolin's sake. On the other hand ...

My sympathies to you for your current situation. But a couple of aspects of this have me wondering ... OK, it's a good hook, a catchy title, but don't blame the mandolin. It was your choice - and in retrospect, not a very good one. I hope the ring turns up - and it sounds like it should be at the cleaners. Unless it slipped out sometime while your wife was handling your coat. I'd keep after them, at least one more time.

The thing that I don't get - and I don't mean to cause any more grief than you've already suffered - is how it took you "a few days" to notice it wasn't on your finger? Personally, I can't wear rings because I'm always aware of their presence - but that's just me. Also your wife didn't notice, either? I'm puzzled.

Never mind all that, not really important, now. I hope the ring shows up, soon. And I'll bet you'll be more careful from now on!

[Mark Miller]

That is gut-wrenchingly awful. I agree with the suggestion that you make an event of replacing it. Go out with your wife to pick out a new one. Let that symbolize recommitment to the marriage.

When I got married I was an avid basketball player. Right back from the honeymoon, I go to the gym and as I'm getting dressed I start to take off the ring. And I just can't. So I played with it. It felt terrible at first. Every time the ball touched my left hand there was this hard extra thing clunking against it. But eventually I got used to it. Never noticed it playing mando or guitar.

[Bertram Henze]

Sorry about your ring. I still wear my Celtic wedding band and my husbands on my hands. So I understand how you feel. Yesterday was 5 months to the day my dear Mike passed. I still miss him. Strength to you and perhaps the mandolin can give you solace in time to come.

Strength to YOU Pasha. That puts it all in perspective.

[BlueMt.]

I've always done the kind of work that is dangerous when wearing a ring, so I never wore mine. Later my wife and I both sold our rings to raise funds to adopt our son and we've never replaced them. I did have a friend who always put his ring in the accessory pocket of his case when playing; he's been doing that for 30 years and so far so good.

Bob, I hope your ring turns up, it's obviously very important to you.

Pasha, My condolences on the loss of your husband.

[Jim]

Pasha, so sorry for your loss.

Personally, I can't wear rings because I'm always aware of their presence

That's my situation as well, no plans to ever marry again so not really an issue ;-)

[journeybear]

Well, I'd be willing to give it a shot, given the right person, circumstances, and opportunity. And I'd be sure to let her know, oh-so-subtly, perhaps repeatedly, about the sacrifice I'd be making for her sake. (Just got to work the angle, you know? )

Seriously, I've had a couple-few rings over the years, and they all have mysteriously vanished.

[mandroid]

had a cool Stirling silver ring that broke, then I read of industrial accidents

where the rings held But the finger Broke instead .

[Bertram Henze]

...no plans to ever marry again so not really an issue ;-)

...as if life cared about our plans but you know that, of course

[CJFizzix]

Sort of off topic, but sort of on. I lost my wedding ring once. I brought burgers and cole slaw to a pot luck. After I had been at the potluck for awhile, I noticed my ring was missing. Everyone was helping me look for it. I was looking in the backyard, tiptoeing through the piles of poop. Others were looking in the house. Finally I gave up. Later a friend of mine held up the ring. It was in his cole slaw...must have come off when I was using my hands to make sure the dressing coated the slaw.

[Bill Snyder]

It's not really "in the way", but I feel it between my fingers and it rubs a little when my fingers are moving fast. More of a distraction than anything. I like to play unfettered, so rings come off and sleeves get rolled up.

That must be it. I don't know that anyone would ever describe my fingers as moving fast.

[RAGZDADDY]

I saw the thread title and thought maybe someone got smart and sold a ring and bought a nice instrument. roflol.
Just kidding you for sure. Hope you find the ring. The wimminz folks can get a bit touchy about one losing their ring.

[derbex]

My wifes engagement ring cost me a Hobie Cat! Mind you I got a Vega tenor banjo instead of a wedding ring

Hope the ring turns up.

[soliver]

Wow Bob, that's a bummer... I know that feeling when you realize you've lost something REALLY important.... All the blood rushes out of your face and you realize there's just nothing you can do... I'm sorry!

I personally can't stand to take mine off... I've always worked with my hands doing carpentry or metal fabrication so when my (now) wife and I were shopping we chose a brushed titanium ring to stand up to my abuse. I've gotten so used to it being there that it just feels too weird to not wear so I've never taken it off longer than a few minutes. I know that doesn't help your situation, but I just wanted to share my experiences alongside others.

[colorado_al]

I recommend a tungsten carbide replacement. That's what I have and it is virtually unscratchable. It measures a 9 on the Mohs scale. I work with my hands on engines every day and it is as shiny as the day I bought it. If it gets crushed, it will break off, instead of compressing.
Inexpensive too. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004MTG7F2/
And you can get one by Tuesday

[PJ Doland]

When I play I always just move my wedding ring from my left hand to my right hand.

[Emmett Marshall]

Sorry to hear about the loss of your wedding ring. I can understand the anger, but as others have said, it's not the mandolin's fault. On a side note, I'm curious if anyone else has tried practicing with weighted, fingerless gloves? I use them for practicing Karate punches, and one day, I practiced my mandolin with them for about an hour. Then I took them off and played without them - wow! I was so limber and everything felt so easy. Highly recommend that experience.

[FLATROCK HILL]

Sort of off topic, but sort of on. I lost my wedding ring once. I brought burgers and cole slaw to a pot luck. After I had been at the potluck for awhile, I noticed my ring was missing. Everyone was helping me look for it. I was looking in the backyard, tiptoeing through the piles of poop. Others were looking in the house. Finally I gave up. Later a friend of mine held up the ring. It was in his cole slaw...must have come off when I was using my hands to make sure the dressing coated the slaw.

There's a moral to that story somewhere, but I think it relates more to the wisdom of having a 'pot-luck' in an area where there are 'piles of poop'.